the other reason this exists is because everyone is too busy to talk
conversations either go
im talking, and while they may be listening, they’re listening to project their experiences onto mine but often in the most high-handed bastardised way
this is a roundabout way of waiting for me to finish talking so they can start
often this presents itself as preaching and unsympathetic
remember that most people arent good at giving advice that is in any way different from how they’ve led their life and they don’t recognise this so theres even pride when they say it
and thing about listening is it’s simple yet complex when someone tells you something, you have to understand their context because what they’re saying, and what you should takeaway from their saying, are often very different this is why reasonably autistic people are refreshing; people who haven’t been lobotomised by the social hammer; just direct conversation without spending gigahertz fetching instructions, decoding, loading and retrieving unique individual context from brain ram
the other one is that they just dont care
this one is weird to me because i care
now the issue with all this is i accumulate a long list of things i want to talk about because of all people, i have the most time to reflect and i reflect on the experiences of others too
and so when i do find a person who actually listens, i more recently dominate the conversation i become the high seas and they a little dinghy tossed around by me
but a conversation is two, or more ways
i want to truly listen
im looking up talking to llama-3-70B hm…